It’s jeans season again, folks! Here’s a rumination on clothing.
There is a special place in fashion heaven reserved for the countless belt loops I ripped off ill-fitting jeans between the ages of probably 12 and 23, or so. These flimsy strips of fabric detached from the top of my jeans seemingly without effort, unable to withstand the force of my desperate tugging on denim that wouldn’t give. I would feel the waistband sliding down my back, dangerously close to revealing an ass crack, slipping under the fat roll that hangs over my belly button, whether I was standing in the lunch line or sitting at my desk at work. I loved fall but dreaded the change of clothes, giving up too-tight shorts—sure, I had a camel toe, but I looked cute from behind, right?—for unforgiving clingy pants fabric.
I’ve lost two pets in my life, but never have I been this close to the end with one of them. I hate this and I need to share it. (This is a long read.)
On January 12, my cat Kismet had surgery to remove most of a tumor from her cheek. As the day approached, we hadn’t even been sure she would be able to 1) have the surgery or 2) make it through alive. She’s sixteen years old and, as we learned at a vet appointment just two weeks before, she apparently has a heart murmur. The day before surgery, she had an echocardiogram to make sure her heart was strong enough; luckily, it was. One hurdle down.
We’re no longer the butt of a joke — we’re it, honey.
It’s typical comedy fodder: the poorly-dressed, frumpy thirty-something male comes upstairs from his basement lair and demands something ridiculous and childish — he wants his mother to make him dinner, or do his laundry, or read him a bedtime story. The audience laughs. A company sells insurance policies or microwave dinners. Everyone goes home happy.
NYC is tough, and it’s getting harder to tell myself I’m tougher. (But I’ll keep working at it.)
When I was 12, I imagined graduating college and floating off into my brand new Adult Life. I would have a job and an apartment, and I’d be able to hang up the posters I wanted and pick out my own couch. (How much could a couch cost? Honestly?)
When I got into college and shipped up to Boston for the next four years, I started daydreaming about finding an apartment near campus and staying there until something better came along, like becoming editor-in-chief at a publishing house or getting married. I was fond of telling myself that there were basically three cities I could live in for the publishing future I wished to have — New York (where I wasn’t then interested in living), Boston (where I was), and London (which was and, even after having visited, remains, to me, an unattainable fantasy land). And I sure as hell wasn’t going back to New York. It’s where I’d come from! I basically lived there. My grandmother lives there. Why would I go back?
Wouldn’t that be failing?
I am twenty-three and I have a job in my preferred field. I have ideas for other things I’d like to learn and do. I have writing projects in mind. And yet, I occasionally still feel the need to tell myself that I’m failing.
We are all busy people here. We all have jobs and families and friends and maybe relationships and hobbies and extracurricular activities. But if you’re reading this, I’ve like to think you’re also a book lover — and an avid reader.
Sometimes, the other stuff gets in the way. I know all too well the agony of having to close the book and start a new day at the office, yearning to dive back into the fictional land in which you lived for all of your commute.
But I also know that there are ways to read a book — even two or three! — even in the most hectic work week. And I’m going to share some of the things I’ve learned over this last year and a half of working and commuting and generally being a real adult who ALSO gets to read books. Enjoy.
Rule 1: ALWAYS have a book with you, even when you think you won’t have time to read.
It’s always when you think you won’t need something — an umbrella, a certain folder, an old Word doc you haven’t opened in six years — that it ends up becoming the only thing that can save you. You may want to get some work done on the train on your commute; you might be banking on chatting with a friend or colleague on the way; maybe you just downloaded the next juicy installment of your favorite podcast. But if you find yourself caught up on work (or maybe not in quite the right mood to get to work), or if your phone dies (for shame!), you’ll really kick yourself for not having your trusty book at hand.
Ruminations on Boston Comic Con 2015, getting inked, and Agent Carter
By now, it has probably been deleted. But for a few glorious hours on Saturday afternoon, an image of my right bicep existed on Hayley Atwell’s phone.
It began months ago, when my friend Aubrey and I decided that we would take ourselves to Boston Comic Con to see the sights. Somehow, in the midst of the discussions of what to do and where to stay, the first thing we agreed upon and settled was that we would be getting Agent Carter-inspired tattoos. We decided on an image of the already iconic red hat that Peggy wears in the first moments of her very own show, with an old-timey-tattoo ribbon bearing a quotes we would each pick for ourselves.